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Reflective Parenting with Teenagers: Mentalizing Adolescents

The training course will help professionals working in adolescent services or in their own practice support parents to learn how to take a more reflective, mentalizing approach to their teenagers. 

About this training  

There are no perfect behavioural or emotion-management strategies for parenting teenagers which will quickly fix the problems as parents are experiencing them in their relationships. However, this course will show how, by using a set of Reflective Parenting tools, professionals can guide parents to develop both their own self-awareness as parents of teenagers, and also increase their awareness of the thoughts and feelings of their teenagers. This technique brings about a greater connection between parents and their teenagers at a time where adolescents are striving to individuate and develop their own identity. The course will look at theories underpinning adolescent development and difficulties including neuroscience, mentalizing, attachment and developmental. 

The training course will help professionals working in adolescent services or in their own practice support parents to learn how to take a more reflective, mentalizing approach to their teenagers. The approach will help parents not only to understand their teenager better, but also to understand their own responses to them and the influence their own lives have on the future of their children.  

The training is based on the following text: How Do You Hug a Cactus? Reflective Parenting with Teenagers in Mind. By Redfern, S (2024)

Aims of the training 

The training will give participants: 

  • To help professionals to learn about other theories underpinning adolescent development – neuroscience, mentalizing and developmental – to inform an approach to parenting which considers the impact on behaviour and emotions of all these overlapping changes in adolescence. 

  • To help participants understand why parental mentalizing is helpful to parents of teenagers 

  • To teach participants how to run a psycho-education group for parents of adolescents 

  • To teach participants about how brain changes and developmental milestones in adolescents affect emotion regulation and behaviour – and how parents can learn to mentalize these 

Who is this training for?  

Professionals working with parents and carers who have adolescents or young adults (up to 25 years) who are vulnerable. They might be working in mental health services or in schools with teenagers.

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